Tips to Help You Dump your Feelings for your Ex and Move on with your New Life
Are you divorced but still talk about your ex like you’re still together? Do you reflect on your marriage with thoughts of longing and sadness as if your relationship had been picture-perfect? If this is the case, the torch you’re carrying is as big as the state of denial you may have found yourself in. Put out the flame.
1. Get perspective.
Your relationship wasn’t a panacea for your problems. Write down the reasons your marriage failed. Seeing that list will make the reasons for your divorce more concrete.
2. Purge.
Still have pictures of your ex? Other mementos? Tell him/her to pick up their things or donate them to charity.
3. Ditch the self-pity.
Realize that the relationship is over. You’ll go through a grieving process, just like when you lose a loved one, which you have. Write down the reasons you need to move on — and do it.
4. Turn to friends.
You will likely need the support of others to get through this difficult time. If they were there for your divorce, they will likely be there for you now.
5. Date again.
Just remember that your first relationship back in singledom doesn’t mean you have to marry the guy (or girl). Dating is an opportunity to get to know yourself again and what you want.
