Sexual compatibility is defined as the extent to which a couple perceives they share sexual beliefs, preferences, desires, and needs with their partner. Studies have linked sexual satisfaction directly to relationship satisfaction, but don’t use your perception of sexual incompatibility as an excuse to cut and run.
Silence and deception is not the way to a better sex life, emotional openness is. Not to date myself, but I recommend adopting the Salt-n-Pepa attitude, “Let’s Talk About Sex Baby.” Use this as an opportunity to talk to your partner about how important sex is in your life, and what you do and don’t like in the bedroom.
Misinformed stereotypes and cultural shyness often block much-needed conversation, research and exploration of the sexual epicenter of human behavior, desires and needs. Deception or clamming up about the subject is not the way to increase your compatibility, but through honest conversation, you may discover a better sexual connection between the two of you.
